Am I in a Toxic Relationship?

Find out in this short assessment.


an attempt to control, in just the same way that physical abuse is an attempt to control another person.


language used to hurt another person that may involve speaking aggressively or violently, or it could mean not saying anything.


often used to try to control their victims and can be used with other types such as financial, sexual and emotional abuse.

Determining the health of your relationship is the first step toward creating a happier life and this self-assessment is useful for assessing the strength, weaknesses and toxicity of your relationship.

My clients have a range of toxic relationships: boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, siblings, family, friends, acquaintances, work colleagues.

Toxic is toxic.

However, it would be better for you – and the results – to complete this assessment for only one person in your life. Don't combine answers about your boyfriend with answers about a coworker. You can take the assessment again simply by answering the questions with another person in your life. It will help you to identify if your relationships are toxic.

Understanding the Assessment Scoring

0% - 25%

You got a score under 25%? It sounds like your relationship is on a pretty healthy track. Maintaining healthy relationships takes some work. Keep it up!

Remember that while you may have a healthy relationship, it’s possible that a friend of yours does not. If you know someone who is in a toxic relationship, find out how you can help them by connecting with me

25% - 50%

If you scored under 50%, you might be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that are unhealthy, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they are warning signs of a toxic relationship. It’s still a good idea to keep an eye out and make sure there isn’t an unhealthy pattern developing.

The best thing to do is to talk to your partner and let them know what you like and don’t like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always important when building a healthy relationship. It’s also good to be informed so you can recognize the different types of abuse.

50% - 75%

If you scored between 50% and 75%, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive or toxic relationship. Don’t ignore these red flags. Something that starts small can grow much worse over time. No relationship is perfect. It takes work! But in a healthy relationship you won’t find abusive behaviors.

75% and Greater

If you scored over 75%, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an toxic relationship. Remember: the most important thing is your safety... consider making a safety plan.

You don’t have to deal with this alone. With proven plans and aggressive results, we can work with you to build the confidence you need to break from your toxic relationship.

Join Edge to learn how to do it on your own.

Are you in a toxic relationship?